What I've been continually learning in the past few weeks is how to develop intimate relationships. We usually bring so much of our baggage from the past into our relationships that it makes it very difficult to be totally open and close with someone. Throughout our lives we may have learned to believe lies about ourselves and have the wrong perception of how others think of us. We could have so much shame, guilt, condemnation or self rejection that it makes it impossible for us to receive love from others. Everyone has something(s) that they're ashamed of, I certainly do and it's challenging to develop an intimate relationship when I'm unwilling to share my past because I just want to run and hide. However, I learned today that the process of healing the heart will let you run free. If you have done something in the past or present that is eating you up inside then I encourage you to tell someone, confess it out loud. All the enemy wants you to do is keep shame bottled up inside so it can grow and grow and eventually suck the life out of you.
First we must be transparent with one another, this beginning step will lead to vulnerability. (That word still sort of makes me cringe inside) Vulnerability means you're open to be wounded; it may sound more negative than positive but when two people are vulnerable with each other, the relationship will reach a new level. Once you are vulnerable, you are free to be yourself and be innocent! This is easier said than done but after breaking through all these stages then you can truly reach your end goal of having security and trust in a relationship. Trust is the glue to all relationships.
Intimacy (into-me-see) - let yourself be healed so others can see through you. Win the battle by not allowing the enemy have authority over your life. Refuse to be led to an escape or false comfort.
Freely choose to love today.
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