Have you felt like any of these quotes at times? I know I have. And this could be because of boundary issues. Emotional, spiritual, and relational boundaries. Personal boundaries which people have trespassed, boundaries which I haven't stood firmly on or boundaries that haven't been made clear to others.
What I'm currently asking myself about my boundaries:
Am I too rigid, too closed? Do I refuse to listen to others' opinions?
Am I too open? Am I hesitant to say no to others?
Am I too distant or reserved? Do I shut myself off from others?
Am I too close? Do I lose myself to mirror other's behaviour? Am I overlapping my identity with someone else?
Am I too intrusive? Do I step on other people's feelings to get what I want?
Am I hyper-receptive? Am I overly trying to make everyone else happy because I'm afraid of conflict?
The answer to these questions have definitely been "yes" one time or another. I'm far from having the perfect boundaries set out for myself but I am ready to forgive others who have stepped over my boundaries and learn from my parents' boundary mistakes. This is not the time to judge others on their boundary issues but to learn from them and become a better person in the future. I won't let the fear of conflict or fear of rejection control my ability to develop intimate relationships.
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